If you are in the dog world, chances are that you have felt lonely at some point!
The dog training industry can be incredibly fulfilling, with countless opportunities to help dogs and their owners live better lives. But behind the rewarding experiences, there’s often an unspoken challenge many professionals face – the feeling of loneliness.
You might find yourself surrounded by clients and dogs all day, yet still feel disconnected, unappreciated, or even invisible. This can lead to deeper feelings of loneliness, which in turn can fuel the need for validation and acceptance. I know I have definitely felt these feelings in the past.
When we feel isolated, we often crave connection and approval from others, which can significantly impact both our mental well-being and business decisions.
Acceptance and Imposter Syndrome in the Dog Training World
The dog training world can feel competitive, especially with the rise of online courses, certifications, and communities. If you’ve ever felt like you’re missing out or not measuring up to others in the industry, you’re not alone.
Many professionals struggle with imposter syndrome – the belief that they’re not truly qualified, experienced, or “good enough” compared to their peers. This can be a lonely place to be!
The pressure to fit in or be accepted often leads us to make decisions that don’t necessarily serve us or our business. Marketing strategies that use FOMO (fear of missing out) are all too common, especially in dog training courses. You might feel compelled to buy into a course not because it’s the right fit for you, but because you’re searching for that sense of belonging, hoping that by joining, you’ll gain the approval you’re seeking. I have fallen victim to this in the past, spending thousands of pounds on various courses, and although it gave me additional knowledge, it didn’t fill that void that I was experiencing.
While investing in your education is valuable, it’s important to recognise when you’re making decisions from a place of loneliness or insecurity, rather than from a genuine desire to improve your skills.
5 Ways to Combat Loneliness and the Need for Acceptance
Here are five practical steps you can take to combat loneliness, overcome imposter syndrome, and evaluate your business decisions with clarity:
1. Reach out to a friend or colleague
Whether it’s someone within the industry or outside of it, simply talking to someone can lift the weight of isolation. A friend’s perspective, even if they’re not a dog trainer or involved in the dog world, can provide comfort and clarity when you’re feeling stuck. Often, just having a conversation can remind you of your value and the progress you’ve made.
2. Evaluate your motives for purchasing courses or joining communities
Before signing up for the next big dog training course, pause and reflect. Are you doing this because you truly want to expand your knowledge, or is it because you’re feeling left out or unsure of your abilities? If it’s the latter, take a step back and remind yourself that no one course or certification can replace the unique experience and knowledge you already bring to your work. Consider whether you’re seeking validation externally, and if so, how you can begin to build confidence in your own skills.
3. Make time for hobbies outside of dog training
It’s important to have interests outside of your work. Engaging in activities you enjoy, whether it’s gardening, painting, or even going for walks, can refresh your mind and give you a new sense of purpose. These breaks from work not only help reduce loneliness but also provide perspective when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
4. Join an online group or community – with intention
There are many online spaces where dog trainers gather, but it’s important to choose communities that align with your values. Look for groups where collaboration, support, and growth are prioritised over competition and comparison. Surrounding yourself with like-minded professionals can help combat loneliness, but be selective about where you spend your time. A good community can nurture your confidence and offer a place to share both your challenges and successes. We all get sucked in to doom scrolling on Facebook, but by being selective on what groups you join and what shows up on your news feed, you stand a far better chance of feeling good about yourself.
5. Acknowledge and work through imposter syndrome
Feeling like an imposter is incredibly common in the dog training world, especially as you see others sharing their successes online. But remember, what you see on social media isn’t the full picture. Everyone, at some point, doubts their abilities. Instead of letting these feelings hold you back, use them as an opportunity for growth. Reflect on your achievements and the unique value you bring to your clients. Surround yourself with people who encourage you to step into your own success. Social media is full of peoples ‘best bits’ These are NOT a reflection of who they are and their true abilities (or lack of them). They are only sharing what they want you to see remember!
How I Can Help You as a Dog Business Coach
As a business coach with over 10 years in the dog industry and 20 years in business, I work with dog professionals who are seeking more than just quick-fix solutions. My coaching approach is all about looking at the whole picture – the mindset behind your struggles, the small pieces of your business that might need tweaking, and the processes and strategies that will help you move forward.
I value integrity, honesty, and ethics in my work, and I believe that these core values are essential in creating sustainable success. When we work together, it’s not just about solving the immediate problem – it’s about understanding the mindset behind every decision and helping you build a business that reflects your true values. I’m here to guide you through both the personal and professional challenges you face, so you can grow confidently as a business owner.
Are You Feeling Isolated and Seeking a Community?
If you find yourself feeling lonely or overwhelmed by imposter syndrome, know that you don’t have to face these challenges alone. As dog trainers, we often focus on the dogs, but it’s just as important to focus on our own needs – mental, emotional, and professional.
I’m in the process of launching something exciting that will create a space for dog professionals like you to connect, grow, and support each other. It’s a community built on shared values – where dog trainers, groomers, and others can collaborate and learn together, not just about dog behaviour but also about building a sustainable and fulfilling business.
Get Involved and Connect!
To be part of this community, or just to follow along for more tips on mindset and business strategies, be sure to follow me on Instagram @kb.dogbusinesscoach. I share regular insights on overcoming loneliness, imposter syndrome, and running a successful dog business while staying true to your passion.
Final Thoughts on Loneliness and Acceptance
Loneliness can make us seek acceptance in ways that may not always serve us well, whether that’s through purchasing the latest course or trying to fit in with a certain group. By taking steps to recognise and address these feelings, you can regain control over your decisions and strengthen both your mental well-being and your business.
We all have hang ups and insecurities, I have probably had to work through these more than most! I actually got into the dog world by accident because of my dog Milo! I was suffering from severe anxiety and perhaps, looking back, getting involved in an industry and competitive dog sport (agility) that made me question my own abilities every single day wasn’t the best idea! BUT it has given me the insight, the experience, the tools to work through the issues, and now I share all these experiences to stop other dog professionals from feeling the same!
Remember, you have a unique value as a dog professional, and building a supportive community around you will help you thrive, both personally and professionally.
Do you feel lonely or struggle with imposter syndrome in your dog business? Share your thoughts in the comments below or reach out to me directly – I’d love to hear your experiences and help you feel more connected!
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Till next time, Katrina x